From my Twitter feed:
When you sit with a griever, your work is to be with them where they are, not drag them out where you are more comfortable.
— Diane Langberg, PhD (@DianeLangberg) April 28, 2022
Truly excellent advice!
There are three critical things I’ve learned about grief: 1) It gets worse at certain times. 2) It’s different for everyone. 3) To help, you have to listen and observe, and act on what you learn. I’m not the expert on grief. My wife knows a great deal more. In September we passed the 10th…
Note: I want to give fair warning on this post. It’s both commercial and personal, and deviates from my normal approach on this blog to a considerable extent. When I married my wife Jody, our son (my stepson) James Webb was already in chemotherapy for cancer. Over the next five years we experienced remission twice,…
I’m always interested in answers to the question of why bad things happen to good people, though a pastor I know always says this is the wrong question. He says a better question would be why good things ever happen to anybody! Somebody else recently pointed out to me that in Christian theology there are…
Last night my wife Jody and I recorded a conversation about grief for the Energion Publications Tuesday Night Hangout. Those who are calendar-aware, so to speak, might notice that it was on a Wednesday night. We had a technical issue, so the conversation was delayed. It was an interesting conversation, and, if I do say…
The first thing I acknowledge is that I grieve just like everyone else; I do not grieve as a minister. I have the very same emotions, the very same needs as all persons who experience loss. (p. 20) This is from the forthcoming book Surviving a Son’s Suicide by Ron Higdon. It’s interesting that I’m…
Note: My wife Jody doesn’t post here often. This is from her. Part of every misery is, so to speak, the misery’s shadow or reflection: the fact that you don’t merely suffer but have to keep on thinking about the fact that you suffer. I not only live each endless day in grief, but live…
